We were all at the park the other day, and Aspen quickly slid down the slide that had given her fear months ago. Then she looked over at the pole. It was the type you'd see in an old firehouse - a straight vertical pole of hand-width diameter, extending from an arc off the top floor of the play structure down into the wood chips on the ground. "What's this for?" she said. It's for sliding down. Here, like this, with your legs wrapped around. "I can't," she said, while feebly pointing her …